You might have heard the saying that people are creatures of habit. When we find something that we get somewhat good results with, most of us don’t really look much further, but settle and keep doing the same thing over and over again.

For some areas of life this is all good and well as you can’t run around changing everything all the time. But when it comes to sex you definitely do NOT want to get stuck in your habits!

What many women do when they start giving head is that at first they don’t know anything. Then they learn a few tricks and get to know their way around his cock, which is good and necessary. But what happens next is that most women simply STOP there. When they get the basic jist of it, they’re not really interested in MOVING IT FORWARD, which is a total shame!

Are you one of those women? It’s okay, I’m not here to judge. But if you want to keep giving your man intense pleasure, and if you want to know how to give head for real, then you need to keep changing what you do for two reasons:

  1. When you change what you do, you change yourself. I.e. You LEARN new things. You learn what works and you learn what DOESN’T work, which in the long term makes you a much better learner.
  2. Changing what you do keeps things FRESH, both for YOU and for HIM. Even the greatest sensations will fade over time. It’s a law of nature. You can’t keep doing the same thing to him and expect that it won’t eventually grow tiresome.

If you want more tangible tips on WHAT you can do, you can check out our blog on how to give great head. It’s jam-packed with great tips on how to give good head, how to have PROPER foreplay and how to give your man what he’s REALLY craving.

One blowjob technique to rule them all. There’s a certain technique that I always like to recommend when someone asks me for advice on how to give head.

It’s a tad (but only a tad) difficult to get a hold of, but when you do, he’s not going to be able to stop thanking you afterwards. It’s just that good.

So here’s what you do. Grab a hold of his cock with both of your hand. If he’s not large enough, then just grab his cock with one hand. As you keep going up and down over his penis with your mouth, do the same with your hand.

Also; while you’re doing this starting rotating your hands back and forth. Rotate the hands in opposite directions for extra effect. That’s it. That’s probably the best blowjob technique I know of.

IMPORTANT: Make sure you lube him up properly! Otherwise he’s going to have one scuffed cock afterwards.

Today I wanted to share a great little blowjob technique with you. It’s pretty easy to get the hang of, but it’s going to drive your man insane with pleasure.

This little blowjob tip is something you can sprinkle into your “ordinary routine”, and is not something you want to base your whole shabang on.

Start at the base of his cock. Slowly lick your way up his shaft, almost like you would do if you had a lollipop. Then, when you’re at the top of his shaft, just beneath his head, swallow as much of his cock as you can in one taking.

This will definitely make your man go crazy.

It’s funny; most women that are curious about how to give great head are most often curious about what “techniques” to use. “What techniques did you use?” “What do you do?”

I think this is funny not becaue I like to laugh at beginners, I think it’s funny because it’s not just what you *do* that affects how much he’s going to enjoy himself, it’s *how* you do it.

If you really want to turn his gears you need to activate all of him; you need to stimulate not only his penis, but his MIND as well. They say the mind is the biggest erogenous zone there is. I think that’s true. So don’t get stuck up focusing on just his penis. Remember the big picture.

My pal Patrick wrote an article recently on blowjob tips which included a tip that I found super important:

Decide if you’re going to swallow his cum beforehand. If you don’t, chances are that you’ll just ruin the climax since you don’t know what you’re going to do.

My tip for those of you who cringe at the mere thought of swallowing his cum is to just pull him out just before, jerk him off with your hand and say something like “I want your hot cum all over my chest!” and let him explode over you.

I know some of you are even too afraid of getting it on you. If that applies to you, then just get over yourself. It’s not radioactive, and it’s not going to kill you.

Oral Sex Comes First

December 14, 2008

In this poll created by, they asked their reader which comes first in a new relationship, regular intercourse or oral sex. A bit unsurprisingly oral sex was pointed out as the beginning step.

Maybe it’s a “try before you buy”-thing? I’m not quite sure, but I’ve definitely heard male friends that would stick with their lovers just because they were great in bed. So learning to give good head is probably a great idea.

I’ve already covered a lot of ground detailing how to give good head in this blog, and today I wanted to continue talking a little bit about how make things more exciting. Even though learning new tricks and techniques automatically fires it up a little, sometimes we need some tips that are a little more specific on how to give more exciting head.

  • Give Him Surprise Head. A way to make things a little more exciting is that instead of just giving him head only in combination with intercourse, to randomly start giving him head at times where he doesn’t expect it at all; for instance when he’s working with something important. Trust me; it will be a welcomed surprise!
  • Do It at a Fun Place. My blogmate Patrick has already written up a pretty good post on a couple of fun places you can try out. Remember to use your imagination. The more risky it is, the more exciting the session becomes. Use your own judgment of how far you want to go!
  • Do Something He’s Not Expecting. Now I know I said technique is not all there is to being exciting, but techniques do play a part. You can try to do something that he’s absolutely not expecting at all. When you’re giving him head and you sense that he’s about to cum, then quickly start massaging his anus. Most of the time it will be totally unexpected and if all goes well it will send him over the top.

Those short tips are great starting points on how to give better and more exciting head. I suggest you try all of them at least one. If for nothing else, than they’ll give you a good laugh and turn your day into an adventure!

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