June 8, 2010
You might have heard the saying that people are creatures of habit. When we find something that we get somewhat good results with, most of us don’t really look much further, but settle and keep doing the same thing over and over again.
For some areas of life this is all good and well as you can’t run around changing everything all the time. But when it comes to sex you definitely do NOT want to get stuck in your habits!
What many women do when they start giving head is that at first they don’t know anything. Then they learn a few tricks and get to know their way around his cock, which is good and necessary. But what happens next is that most women simply STOP there. When they get the basic jist of it, they’re not really interested in MOVING IT FORWARD, which is a total shame!
Are you one of those women? It’s okay, I’m not here to judge. But if you want to keep giving your man intense pleasure, and if you want to know how to give head for real, then you need to keep changing what you do for two reasons:
- When you change what you do, you change yourself. I.e. You LEARN new things. You learn what works and you learn what DOESN’T work, which in the long term makes you a much better learner.
- Changing what you do keeps things FRESH, both for YOU and for HIM. Even the greatest sensations will fade over time. It’s a law of nature. You can’t keep doing the same thing to him and expect that it won’t eventually grow tiresome.
If you want more tangible tips on WHAT you can do, you can check out our blog on how to give great head. It’s jam-packed with great tips on how to give good head, how to have PROPER foreplay and how to give your man what he’s REALLY craving.
November 30, 2008
Since oral sex plays an important part in every relationship, many people go online in order to get more information on this delicate topic. For many people deep-throating has been one of the biggest sources of this new curiosity, and it has grown to become an important part of giving good head. This article will aim to give you a beginners introduction on how to start deep-throating effortlessly.
- Relax. Before you start, it’s important that you take a deep breath and relax. Since you’re trying to overcome your gag-reflex, it’s important that you remove any tension you have in your body and mind, because if you don’t, the only thing that’s going to happens is that you’re going to provoke the gag-reflex even more. When you feel ready it’s time to take on the cock.
- Swallow His Cock. The next step is to actually try to take on his member. This is where the magic happens. What you want to do is to push the penis beyond the builtin gag reflex. In the beginning you’re very likely to start gagging at least a couple of times, and that’s completely natural since you’re simply not used to it. A big part of deep-throating is just getting used how it feels, but a good trick when you feel the gag reflex starting to come up is to start swallowing. That is, start making the same motion you would as if you were swallowing. That will help alleviate the gag reflex.
- Take it easy. It’s important that you take it easy when you’re just getting started with deepthroating. It’s easy to get carried away and push yourself to a point where you’re getting really uncomfortable, and if you do you’ll only make yourself not want to practice it anymore.
These are just 3 small steps on how you can easily start deep-throating your partner in the bedroom. Now this is of course not all there is to deep-throating; we’re just discovering the tip of the iceberg, but for someone who’s new to this, it’s an excellent starting point.
November 27, 2008
Today we’re going to talk about one of the most important things you need to learn on how to give good head. We’re going to discuss the matter of enjoying yourself while you give head, which is often overseen simply because it’s not really a “technique” but rather about the attitude you bring to the table.
The reason no one really talks about enjoying yourself is that the general view of men is that they’re these stereotype brute people that you can get off as long as you’re touching their penises.
While most guys I know of course enjoy most sensations you give their genitals, most guys are also pretty acutely aware of what the general mood is, and it can be quite important determinant of how pleasant it is for him. If he knows you’re really enjoying yourself, he’ll be able to relax and enjoy himself fully as well.
Another great reason for why enjoying yourself is such an important aspect of giving good head is simply because when you’re enjoying yourself you’re subconsciously doing all of these very attractive things that add to his experience. You’re sub communicating that you want his cock and that in it self is a major turn-on.
Enjoying Yourself While Giving Head
A lot of factors make up why we enjoy some things and not other things, but one of the key components of it is what we focus on.
In any situation, we can either focus on the good or the bad of the situation. If we focus on the good, we’re going to feel better about it, and if we focus on the bad we’ll feel worse about it. It’s the same thing when it comes to fellatio.
If he wants you to give him head and you start thinking “Oh no, not again. God. Maybe I can just do it quickly and get it over with”, that is definitely going to affect your mood, and it will absolutely shine through and HE WILL KNOW! Even if you give him head then and there, the negative thoughts you projected will keep gnawing at his pleasure and he won’t be able to fully relax.
On the other hand, if you start thinking “Oh my god, he’s so hard! I just love feeling his juicy hard cock in my mouth. And just thinking about the fact that I’m in absolute control over his orgasm makes me so turned on!” that will also shine through and your positive attitude will make him even more amped up and horny.
I’m starting to reach the outer-limits of what this article was supposed to cover but as a final conclusion: It’s really all about focus. Different focus will yield different attitudes, and different attitudes will yield different results.
Keep a positive attitude and it’ll be more pleasant. For the both of you…
November 24, 2008
I was referred to the email below by a friend of mine. It’s an artist that as a performance gives head to a microphone. I think the whole thing is ridiculous, but of course, whatever you call “art” is instantly interesting, and whatever you stamp with “sex” instantly has an audience. Nonetheless, here’s the clip I’m talking about.
November 17, 2008
A big problem (no pun intended) that many women suffer is that they can’t really get the whole of the cock inside their mouth, and while trying to they trigger the gag reflex.
Now, of course, some women simply can’t get the full length of the penis inside their mouths. Unlike the vagina, the mouth is not built for “stretching” or what you want to call it; it’s simply not as adaptable as it’s southern counterpart.
But for the most of you out there, bordering on almost all of you, the problem is not your physical constraints but rather your mental constraints. It’s just the fact that you’re not used to getting that big of an object that deeply in your mouth, so it’s more about getting used to it than anything else.
The funny thing is that the gag reflex is put there to stop you from shoving big objects so that you don’t swallow them, choke on them and end up killing yourself. But of course we know what we’re doing, so what’s the easiest way to circumvent it?
There are several techniques you can use to get better at it, but the best one is probably just trying to swallow when you feel that tingling feeling coming up. If you swallow then the reflex gets caught up and in all the other signals and you might basically “forget” about it.
October 15, 2008
Allright guys and girls! It’s finally time for an update. I changed the theme to something a little more subtle than before, hope you guys like it. It’s a bit less stiff than before which is always nice especially when the blog is about blowjobs!
The last couple of weeks I’ve been working on the new site on how to give great blowjobs and so far it’s going pretty good. I’m actually writing an eBook at this moment about giving head, I’ll give you all more information when it’s ready!
Today I wanted to talk about one of the most important things to learn for someone who’s trying to give good head. At this blog and at a lot of other places you can find a bunch of amazing tips and techniques, but you need to remember that even though most of the things you read will work more or less well, each man is different so you really need to listen to the signals he’s sending out to see which techniques he enjoys the most and which he doesn’t enjoy as much.
So how can you get more feedback? Well, one way is to bluntly ask him to tell you what he likes and what he doesn’t like. In the beginning, he can be a bit shy, with him sitting there naked and all, but just be persistent and ask him a couple of times without pressuring him and soon he’ll be giving you tips like he’s been doing it all his life.
Then there are the unconscious signals he sends out. There are a lot of types of signals he can send out, but a good way to see if he’s enjoying himself or not is to look at his facial expression. If he looks like he’s in pain, then you need to change what you’re doing. If he looks like anything else then you’re probably doing good, because most guys put on very strange faces when they’re getting head.
Remember to also check out our other blog, also on how to give a bj blog.
September 29, 2008
Today I’m going to tell you about one of the more secretive tips I’ve found. I don’t know why people don’t spread this tip, maybe it’s because it might come off as taboo, maybe it’s because they want to keep it for themselves. In either case, I’m going to let you in on this piece of golden magic.